Purpose Through Pain

Joseph James

The Purpose Through Pain Podcast centers on personal stories that offer life lessons on topics like rejection, grief, anxiety, and trauma. Joseph James is a former U.S. Marine and Law Enforcement veteran, business owner, father, motivational speaker and life coach. Joseph has spoken in many venues across the nation and has helped thousands of people understand their purpose in life. After his wife’s battle of cancer, and the journey of pain his family went through, Joseph is now coaching people that have gone through life’s struggles, pain and trauma to help them not just find their purpose through pain but teach them to take their pain and launch them into their destiny. read less
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188: Dwayne Staten | Power of Forgiveness Podcast ft. Joseph James
Aug 8 2023
188: Dwayne Staten | Power of Forgiveness Podcast ft. Joseph James
This is a very special episode, Joseph James was interviewed by Dwayne Staten, the host of the Power of Forgiveness Podcast.They talk about how Joseph felt like he could never do anything to win in life in the eyes of his father, how he came to forgive him, and how they became best friends. They also talk about rejection, not being able to say sorry after someone passes away, and how people can come to forgive others, but they may not forgive themselves. They also talk about something very important and unique, unforgiveness. Unforgiveness can affect your body, your relationships, your life, and its is something that many people need to learn about to recover from. In this episode:How joseph dealt with rejection from his fatherHow joseph delt with rejection from datingHow joseph put himself back out there to dateThe definition of unforgiveness Key takeaways:The 2 main parts of forgivenessHow to forgive yourselfTweetable Moments:“Its okay to not be okay”“When you take the step to forgive someone, you may not hear what you want to hear. Do not take that personally.”“When we dont forgive ourselves, our bitterness and resentment bubbles up.”“Our brains are wired to scout for the bad stuff”Connect with Dwayne Staten:Dwayne's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dwaynestaten/Power of Forgiveness Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-power-of-forgiveness-with-dwayne-staten/id1505118249Connect with Joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en
187: Creating a Winning Culture
Aug 1 2023
187: Creating a Winning Culture
In this episode, Joseph dives deep into the two key elements that can help you create a successful culture, be it in your business, marriage, or family relationships. Get ready for some powerful insights that can set you up for success in every area of your life.• Joseph shares his personal journey which has evolved into the transformative Alpha Leadership program.• Joseph reflects on a powerful experience he had with an organization that mastered the art of building a winning culture. • He emphasizes that creating a successful culture involves more than just creating an atmosphere; it's about shaping the environment in which you want to thrive. • Joseph also delves into the impact of trust and vision in building winning cultures. Subscribe, share, and leave a review on Apple Podcasts for more inspiring content from Purpose Through Pain. Thank you for joining us on this journey of growth and transformation. We appreciate each and every one of you!Key Takeaways:1. “Pain is a part of life, but with the right guidance, you can turn that pain into purpose.”2. “Something that to win in life, you have to reinforce winning cultures.”3. “Strategy is your plan if everything goes right.”Connect with Joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=enApple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/purpose-through-pain/id1561912895
186: Living a Legacy
Jul 27 2023
186: Living a Legacy
What is worse than Losing? It's winning at something that doesn't matter. In this episode we are going to discuss 3 ways to build a legacy worth winning for.Key Takeaways:• Winning at what truly matters: The episode emphasizes the importance of prioritizing relationships with family, friends, and God over mere accomplishments or material success.• Having a clear vision and prioritizing what truly matters allows us to focus on actions and decisions that align with our values and long-term goals.• Legacy is not just about leaving a name on a building or receiving accolades but making a positive impact on others' lives. It involves empowering and helping others to grow.• Great leaders not only lead by example but also empower others to succeed, guiding them to achieve their goals and aspirations.• Time is a finite resource, and how we invest it matters. Prioritizing our time with family, building relationships, and leaving positive impacts becomes crucial.• Having a well-defined life plan that encompasses various aspects of life, such as faith, family, relationships, and career, allows us to live with intention and purpose.• Rather than focusing on winning at trivial pursuits, focus on winning at meaningful aspects of life, such as personal growth, relationships, and spirituality.• Legacy is built through consistent positive actions and experiences that impact others' lives, leaving a lasting impression.• Be a leader who not only leads but also lifts others up, enabling them to achieve their potential and contribute positively to society.• Recognize the value of time spent with loved ones, especially children. Create positive memories and experiences that will resonate throughout their lives.• Regularly assess your actions and decisions to ensure they align with your values and the legacy you wish to leave behind.Tweetable Moments:1. “Clarity requires priority.”2. “There's nothing wrong with winning as long as we're not losing at something.”Connect with Joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en
185: The Character Test
Jul 18 2023
185: The Character Test
God commanded us to love one another as Christ has loved you. This is not only a model of leadership but also a test of our own character.In this episode:• Joseph emphasizes the significance of understanding how we influence people and the responsibility that comes with it. • Joseph delves into the dynamics of relationships, including romantic partnerships, friendships, and even our relationship with ourselves. He shares personal insights on conflict resolution, maturity, and the power of love in transforming lives. • He encourages listeners to embrace the commandment of loving one another, drawing inspiration from the model of Jesus' leadership and his relationship with his followers.• Joseph explores the transformative power of love, forgiveness, and personal growth in the context of relationships and influence.Key Takeaways:1. Influence and upbringing shape our choices.2. Self-perception affects relationships.3. Leadership style and influence.4. The importance of genuine influence.5. Winning in relationships.6. Changing oneself and others through love.7. Responding with love and maturity.Tweetable Moments:1. "We are nurturing our relationships with the people, and Jesus has called us to love one another."2. "When you are going through tough times, you know who you can count on. You also get to know and truly understand who shares the same beliefs as you do."3. "We are born into a world of selfishness; that's how we come into it."4. "Immature people interpret every interaction based on what is in it."Connect with Joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en
184: The Spiritual Leader of the Home
Jul 11 2023
184: The Spiritual Leader of the Home
In this episode, Joseph dives into the topic of being the spiritual head of the home. He emphasizes the importance of taking on this role even before entering a relationship and shares personal experiences of rushing into relationships without fully developing himself as a leader. Joseph reflects on his journey of understanding that being a spiritual head starts with being a spiritual head of oneself. Joseph explores the concept of serving and sacrificing as a leader, drawing from biblical references and highlighting the need for effective communication with God. He encourages listeners to spend time in quiet reflection and develop a deep relationship with God, as this foundation will help them navigate the chaos and noise of life. Joseph also discusses the importance of serving and supporting one's partner in a relationship, emphasizing that leadership in the home is a shared responsibility. He addresses the misconceptions around leadership and submission, stressing the importance of mutual respect and the ability to fulfill different roles within a relationship. Joseph concludes by encouraging listeners to invest in their own personal growth and leadership development, as this will ultimately lead to a more fulfilling and blessed life. Tune in to this insightful episode as Joseph provides valuable insights on being the spiritual head of the home and the benefits it brings to relationships and personal growth.Key Takeaways:• Being the spiritual head of the home starts with being a spiritual head of oneself.• Leadership in the home is a shared responsibility.• Effective communication with God is crucial for understanding His guidance and direction.• Leadership is about serving and sacrificing, following the example of Christ's love for the church.• Building a strong foundation as a leader and cultivating personal growth is essential.• Alone time and self-reflection are valuable for personal and spiritual growth.Tweetable Moments:1. “A lot of times God will give us the answer to something before we ever even have the question.”2. “Leaders create what we want through people.”3. “This is where the model of leadership starts. It starts with us knowing and understanding that we've going to communicate with God.”4. “If you'll learn to spend time with God in the quiet times and learning to hear his voice in the quiet times, you will not struggle to hear His voice in the chaotic times.”Connect with joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en
180. The Hardest Person to Lead
Jun 13 2023
180. The Hardest Person to Lead
In this captivating episode, Joseph delves into the challenging task of leading oneself. Whether it's leading in a marriage, business, or as a parent, we all encounter situations where we need to lead others. In this Episode:• Joseph shares his personal experiences, drawing from his leadership style developed in the Marine Corps and influenced by his upbringing.• He reflects on the difficulties he faced in leading himself, emphasizing the crucial role it plays in effectively leading others. • Joseph explores three key principles of leadership exemplified by Jesus, applicable to all regardless of their beliefs. • Joseph encourages listeners to place trust in God's provision rather than succumbing to worry and anxiety. • Joseph emphasizes the importance of prioritizing God's kingdom over worldly possessions, encouraging listeners to evaluate their priorities.• Joseph shares personal anecdotes, including his own struggles and growth in leadership, underscoring the necessity of self-reflection and transformation.Key Takeaways:1. Leading ourselves is the hardest form of leadership. Before we can effectively lead others, we must first learn to lead ourselves. 2. Character matters in leadership. Our actions and behaviors, both in private and public, reflect our character. It is important to strive for integrity and authenticity, as our true character will eventually be revealed.3. Trusting in God and surrendering our worries is crucial. We often carry burdens and stress, especially in areas of provision and significance.4. Putting God's kingdom above our own agenda is a key aspect of leadership. 5. Leadership begins with ourselves. We need to assess our character, address our worries, and prioritize our relationship with God.Tweetable Moments:"Your character will reveal the things you do; they will find you out.""The way we act behind closed doors will become public knowledge and manifest in other areas.""Leaders worry because they bear weight.""You are the hardest person to lead—yourself. However, you are the only one who can work on yourself. It's all a matter of choice."Connect with joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en
179. Leading in marriage Gods way
Jun 6 2023
179. Leading in marriage Gods way
In this episode:• Joseph opens up about his personal journey and the transitions he has experienced with the podcast. Joseph has embarked on a transformative path over the past several months.• Joseph shares his faith and emphasizes the importance of understanding the purpose behind life's struggles.• Joseph introduces his coaching program, Alpha Leadership, clarifying that it isn't about control or dominance but about being a servant leader.• Joseph discusses the challenges he faced after the loss of his wife and how he searched for answers and healing. He shares his toxic relationship and the struggles they endured, acknowledging societal pressure to separate but recognizing the voice of God guiding them to remain together.• Joseph encourages listeners to seek healing and self-discovery in their own lives, whether it be in relationships, parenting, or business.• Joseph emphasizes the importance of alignment with God's design for marriage and becoming alpha leaders within their families, emphasizing that it's not about hierarchy or dominance but about fulfilling their unique roles as called by God.• Discover how you can experience a blessed, prosperous, and love-filled life, even amidst challenges, by embracing the principles of alpha leadership.Tweetable Moments: 1. “Triggers are nothing more than wounds that are coming to the surface that have not been healed.”Connect with joseph James at:Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alphaleadershipInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/?hl=en
178: Finding Your Identity and Purpose
May 30 2023
178: Finding Your Identity and Purpose
When you keep telling yourself the same story, nothing will change. In this episode, Joseph James talks all about identity, and how most people prioritize the wrong thing. Changing your identity is something that many people struggle with for a whole lifetime. If you want to change your identity, the vision of yourself must change.How we feel about our own lives is so important. We create an identity for ourselves about how we talk, look, act, and even who we interact with so we can keep up a certain look or idea of ourselvesBut when your profession becomes your identity, something certainly needs to change. Joseph experienced this first hand, and in this episode, tells the story of how he was able to change his mindset around this. If your identity is work, and if your job changes, your job changes your life feels meaningless. In this episode:Joseph shares how he had to change his identity twice. Once after a career change, and once after his wife passed away. The steps to take to change your identity. How to know when your identity is no longer working for you. Key Takeaways:If you want to change your identity, the vision of yourself must change.Work should not be your identity.Your identity can change, when you put effort into it. Tweetable moments:“Align your future with where you want your identity to be.”“If I want a different future, I have to change how I think now.”“Change your mindset, change your world.”Connect with Joseph James: Website: https://thealphaleadership.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/
177: Turn Adversity into Assets with Tar'lese Rideaux
May 23 2023
177: Turn Adversity into Assets with Tar'lese Rideaux
We all face difficult times in our lives that can lead to stress. How do we deal with it, learn from it, and manage it? Tar'Lese is no stranger to dealing with stress; however, she is not confined by it either. Listen to how Tar'Lese takes you from dealing with parents who committed suicide, to life-threatening injuries to her body, to living a life on her own terms by using stress management tools.In this episode:• Tar’lese shares how she starts teaching people how to get rid of stress.• Tar’lese and Joseph discuss the challenges they have overcome and how they surpassed them.• Tar’lese talks about addressing and processing emotional pain, and focusing on identifying and acknowledging feelings rather than avoiding or suppressing them.Key Takeaways:• People only share their highlights and best moments on social media, so don't compare yourself to others.• Taking the first step is to assess the situation.• There is no right or wrong, nor good or bad, you have to release the emotions you've been bottling up and then address them.Tweetable Moments:1. "At the end of the day, when you're going through your own stuff, it feels like no one else understands."2. "Vulnerability brings healing to us, but it's our transparency that brings healing to other people."3. "Pushing through the pushing through is really pushing away."Connect with Tar'lese Rideaux at:Website: https://www.digitalrichesroadmap.com/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tarlese/Connect with Joseph James:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/purthrpnFacebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/
175: Alpha Leadership-Being Authentic: Part 1
May 9 2023
175: Alpha Leadership-Being Authentic: Part 1
In this episode, Joseph will talk about a title that is the creation of their leadership coaching and the launch of their book called Alpha Leadership. Joseph will tell us what Alpha is and is not and the acronym of ALPHA. Alpha leadership is based on Joseph's experiences as a young man who grew up in a very abusive home. He went through many different things in life, and because of those things, he learned.We learn from the good experiences, we learn from the bad experiences, and we learn from the indifferent experiences. We can take those experiences and learn from them to create better opportunities. We have a choice to be a victim or a victor. It's up to us.Key Takeaways:When walking through the fire, we have one of two choices: it can either destroy us or refine us. The choice is ours.When we are being authentic, it allows the true self to be what we have claimed we are.Your "I am" statement may push you to greatness and ignite a fire inside of you. It will teach you how to take your word and become a daily habit to create the alpha leader within yourself.Tweetable Moments:1. "We have a choice to be a victim or a victor. It's up to us."2. "Pain can be the crutch that gets you stuck, or it could be the thing that launches you into your destiny."3. "I am can recreate, reinvent, restructure your mindset to becoming who you called to be, and that is to be authentic."Connect with Joseph James:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/meetjjames Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/252908273026721 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/
174: Kelli Calabrese | Intentionally Fabulous
May 2 2023
174: Kelli Calabrese | Intentionally Fabulous
Divorce can be painful, ugly, depressing, but you can be refined, and redefine yourself to live an extraordinary bonus life filled with peace, joy, gratitude, self-love and celebration. Listen as Kelli helps women going through any stages of separation and divorce go from fearful to fearlessly pursuing what sets their soul on fire.On this episode:• Joseph and Kelli will talk about trauma, the hurt, the pain, the guilt, everything that comes along with, or that can be attached to a divorce.• The struggles that Kelli had to face during her relationship with her ex-husband and how she overcame them.• Kelli’s transition from the divorce coaching to now the health and the wellness coach.• How group counselling help people overcome challenges.• Kelli shares her book and how it impacts to coach people.Key Takeaways:1. Every person that you have been with has a piece of you and you have a piece of them.2. If hurt people can hurt people, healed people can also heal people.3. We're all looking for unconditional love. The only place that we can get it is from God.4. You are who you hang around.5. The things that we do go through in life, prepare us for those times that are dark, for those times, that are uncertain for those times that you just I gotta find myself again.Tweetable Moments:1. “Love is not taught, it's caught.”2. “Victim energy is actually equivalent to death.”3. “You adjusting by teaching others and then teaching others, teach others.”4. “What happens in the home is just magnified out in the workplace.”Connect with Kelli Calabrese:Website: https://www.intentionallyfabulous.com/?r_done=1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellicalabrese/Personal Website: https://kellicalabrese.com/Connect with Joseph James: Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejamesInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/
171: Christina Patterson Wood | Finding Your Voice After Sexual Assault
Apr 11 2023
171: Christina Patterson Wood | Finding Your Voice After Sexual Assault
Christina Patterson Wood is a dance instructor and directs one of the studio outreach programs that work one on one with at-risk youth. She also does admin support for Lousiville, Kentucky ministry that helps incarcerated men transition out of prison and back into society. Christina has the heart to use the arts to help at-risk youth around the world. Christina is a long-time friend of mine whom I just reconnected with after she shared her story about sexual assault that happened in a past relationship. We talk about how she, and many women, suppress their sexual assault experiences for years until something happens that triggers the memories, and they are faced with confusion, denial, and ultimately the truth of what happened to them. Christina was in denial of the fact she was sexually assaulted by her ex-fiance 20 years ago. In her mind, sexual assault only happened by strangers in an aggressive way and not in relationships, not by someone you are in a relationship with. This misconception in her mind suppressed her mind kept her questioning what really happened. In the dance industry, there are many women coming out years later and joining the #MeToo movement by talking about their instructors who abused them as students, children, and young adults. Years later she was triggered. Seeing her well her husband treats her made her realize how badly she was treated in the past. She realized what happened to her years ago, and came out with her story publicly because she wants people to know that they deserve to be loved, not treated unwell.On this episode:Christina shares her experience of realizing she was sexually assaulted.How she told her husband, and he showered her in love, care, and support.Why do many women keep quiet about their sexual assault.Why many women question if what happened was sexual assault.The Me Too Movement and how prominent it is in the dance community.Why Christina stayed quiet for so long, and her fear that if she told her story people would minimize it. Her work in the at-risk youth community.How she helps her ministry support men transition out of prison and back into the community.Key Takeaways:You deserve to be loved, not treated unwell.How telling your story can help others tell theirs.Finding a purpose in your pain to help others.Why we say getting into a new relationship can help you heal from a past relationship.Quotable Moments:“The painful things we experience have a purpose, so changing the question of what was the purpose of that happening to me, to how do I find purpose through it changes the perspective a lot.” “You deserved to be loved, you deserve to be loved well, and in the way that God loves you.”“He was my fiance, he said he loved me, this is not the context of how sexual assault happens.”Connect with Joseph James:Facebook PageFacebook GroupInstagram
170: Kary Youman | Overcoming a Traumatic Past With Mindfulness and Meditation
Apr 4 2023
170: Kary Youman | Overcoming a Traumatic Past With Mindfulness and Meditation
You don’t have to have all the answers to make a difference. Kary Youman is a heart-centered facilitator and mindfulness coach dedicated to creating brave spaces for people to discuss and explore complex topics. Facilitating change through workshops on diversity, equity, inclusion, communication, radical kindness, mental health, and mindfulness, he is helping shift the way organizations view their culture and team dynamics. He is on a personal mission to empower and inspire others to live their best lives through the virtues of kindness and mindfulness, helping people from all walks of life overcome limiting beliefs that have led to transformational changes both personally and professionally.Using the humility and perspective that his life experiences have given him, Kary helps his clients discover their purpose and create a more meaningful life. From toxic masculinity and alcoholism to spirituality and meditation, Kary is here to talk about these experiences and how they influenced the course of his life and led him to where he is today.On This Episode:How growing up in a toxic environment changed the way Kary viewed his parentsThe consequences of growing up thinking that only women are allowed to share their emotionsThe surprising gut punch that changed Kary’s lifeThe intensity of Kary’s twenties as a functional alcoholicHow Kary’s spiritual quest led him to a silent ten-day meditation retreatThe seemingly crazy marketing scam that turned out to be trueThe event that turned Kary into a mental health advocateTaking the mysticism out of meditationKey Takeaways:Judgment and animosity make breakthroughs and connections impossible.There’s always more to the story.When you’re in a dark place, there’s nothing wrong with asking for help, but only you can do the inner healing work.Self-love goes a long way.Tweetable Moments:“Sometimes you can get drunk on the positivity because you’re not allowing yourself to experience what you’re experiencing.” - Kary Youman“It’s important to bounce back and to have a positive outlook, but sometimes you just really gotta deal with some shit.” - Kary Youman“Eventually, if you train yourself to walk through the dark, you start to recognize that you’re the light.” - Kary YoumanConnect with Kary:Website: https://kyouman.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karyyouman/Connect with Joseph James: Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/meetjoejamesInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/meetjosephjames/